Iron Sharpens Iron: Why You Need an “Everyday Warrior Tribe” in 2021

Iron Sharpens Iron: Why You Need an “Everyday Warrior Tribe” in 2021

Originally published at https://www.mensjournal.com on February 1, 2021.


Looking back on my past 20 years, I now understand that the influence of those around me has been the foundation of my success. I’ve been the fortunate recipient of being surrounded by more capable, humbly confident, respectful, growth-minded everyday warriors in pursuit of the same goal: continual improvement. At times it was almost like osmosis — by mere proximity to these warriors, I became better in every facet of my life. From a 130-pound Marine Private to a 200-pound Tier One operator and now an active business entrepreneur — my success is very much a result of their impact on my life.

Choose Your Tribe Carefully

Beyond the effects of self-improvement, I had a tribe. And everyone wants and needs to be part of a tribe to which you have a sense of esprit de corps — that feeling of pride, fellowship, and common loyalty. A word of caution — a tribe can work both ways. Belonging to the U.S. Army Special Forces community can create a sense of pride, fellowship, and common loyalty; as much as belonging to MS-13 or ISIS does. Make sure you choose a tribe that stands for good and influences people in a positive manner. A great quote from an unknown author reinforces this:

If you hang around 5 confident people, you will be the 6 If you hang around 5 intelligent people, you will be the 6 If you hang around 5 millionaires, you will be the 6 If you hang around 5 negative people, you will be the 6

Your Tribe Will Change

In life, you may shift between multiple tribes and that is okay — people evolve, people change goals, people move jobs or locations. What is important is that you are intentional about the people you surround yourself with. When I left the SEAL Teams and moved to Austin, I didn’t know anyone. I felt tribe-less and knew I needed to engage with people until I identified my next circle of everyday warriors. It didn’t happen overnight, but I eventually found a group to call my own. Most of my current tribe doesn’t reside in Austin, but regardless of distance, we engage weekly if not daily. That’s the beauty of social media and electronic communication — if used correctly, it can be an effective tool to create and foster positive relationships and interactions.

When I talk about each of my tribe members, these everyday warriors, I instantaneously start smiling and bragging about each of them. I feel humbled to be associated with them. In many ways, I take more pride in their accomplishments and success than my own. I’d be remiss if I didn’t highlight a few of the Everyday Warrior tribe members:

  • Lisa Jaster: Mother, West Point graduate, and the third woman in the history of the U.S. Army to graduate U.S. Ranger School…at the age of 37, no less.
  • Kirk Parsley: Former SEAL turned Navy doctor. Renowned expert in human performance and sleep.
  • Glenn Cowan: Former Canadian Tier One operator and successful venture capitalist with an unwavering positive outlook on life.
  • Melody Schofield: Competitive Crossfitter and 3x American Ninja Warrior Competitor.
  • Rob Jones: Former Marine and double amputee. Paralympic, who ran 31 marathons in 31 days.
  • Chris Frueh: Renowned psychologist and behavioral scientist, who personally helped me through my darkest days.
  • Dean Stott: Former UK Tier One operator, who despite suffering a career-ending injury, has become a record-breaking explorer and adventurer. Best-selling author of Relentless.
  • Rick Kadets: Former Marine and one of the most talented artists and photographers I’ve ever met. The guy is always trying something new and never stops smiling.
  • Dan Luna: Retired SEAL and Tier One Operator. Always in the pursuit of knowledge, when Dan isn’t finishing his Doctorate at USC, he serves as a human performance coach.
  • Nick Shaw: CEO of Renaissance Periodization, one of the most effective and scientifically sound diet and fitness training companies I’ve worked with. Former competitive powerlifter and body builder.
  • Rich Diviney: Retired SEAL and Tier One Operator. Human performance and leadership coach. Author of “The Attributes: The 25 Hidden Drivers of Optimal Performance.”

Find Your “Everyday Warrior Tribe” in 2021

Why introduce them? Because 2020 has impacted us all, even the aforementioned leaders. COVID, quarantine, and even the presidential election have physically and emotionally isolated us from one another. However, we are taking action to change this. To put an alternative, positive, and healthy message out there.

In 2021, our tribe is excited to embark on this journey we call the ‘Everyday Warrior Initiative’, to tear down the physical or metaphorical walls that separate us and start building up one another. If you, like us, consider yourself an everyday person with a genuine desire to pursue a life of impact and continuous improvement, we’d love if you would join our tribe and kick-off 2021 in an unprecedented, life-changing way.

Visit Mike and his tribe at theeverydaywarrior.com for more information on the Every Day Warrior Initiative.

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About the author

Mike Sarraille
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Mike Sarraille is a retired U.S. Navy SEAL officer and a former enlisted Recon Marine and Scout-Sniper. A graduate of the University of Texas McCombs Business School, he is the founder and CEO of Talent War Group, a specialized executive search firm, and talent advisory that finds high-performing business leaders for senior, executive, or other critical leadership positions. He is co-author of ‘The Talent War: How Special Operations and Great Organizations Win on Talent’ and a columnist for Men’s Journal and Men’s Fitness under ‘The Everyday Warrior’ column. He founded and served as a board of directors for the VETTED Foundation, a cutting-edge executive-level transition program.

Mike enlisted in the Marine Corps and later became a Recon Marine and also served as a scout sniper. He was selected for a Marine officer program, but after finishing his bachelor’s degree at Texas A&M University, he sought a commission in the Navy to try out for the SEAL Teams.  He is also a recognized keynote speaker and subject matter expert in leadership development, talent acquisition, and talent management.

Dr. Chris Frueh
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Christopher Frueh, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, Professor of Psychology at the University of Hawaii, and Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, University of Texas Health Science Center, Houston, TX. He has thirty years of professional experience working with military veterans and active-duty personnel and has conducted clinical trials, epidemiology, historical, and neuroscience research, primarily with combat veterans. He has co-authored over 300 scientific publications, including historical analysis of U.S. Army suicides dating back to 1819 and a current graduate textbook on adult psychopathology. Professionally, he has worked with combat veterans since 1991 and devotes much of his time to the military special operations community. He has also published commentaries in the National Review, Huffington Post, New York Times, Time, and Washington Post; and has been quoted in the Wall Street Journal, The Economist, Washington Post, Scientific American, Stars and Stripes, USA Today, Men’s Health, and Los Angeles Times, among others. Under the pen name Christopher Bartley, he has also published nine novels, including THEY DIE ALONE and most recently, A SEASON PAST.

Lisa Jaster
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Lisa Jaster graduated from the West Point Academy with a BS in Civil Engineering and was commissioned as an active duty engineer officer. During 2003, Lisa deployed in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom as a company executive officer, later serving as the battalion operations construction officer. She attended the Army Engineer Officer Advanced Course at Fort Leonard Wood, MO, and earned her MS in Civil Engineering from the University of Missouri-Rolla in 2004. After leaving the Active Army, Lisa was employed by Shell Oil Company for 12 years. From April to October 2015, she took a six-month leave of absence and attended Army Ranger School, being one of three females that graduated from the first integrated Ranger School course. Lisa is married to a fellow reserve officer and has two children. She lives an active lifestyle competing in anything from ultra trail runs to CrossFit competitions. She loves martial arts training, specifically Jiu-Jitsu, and is always looking for the next challenge to tackle.

Fran Racioppi
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Francis Racioppi, CPP, CBCP, most recently led Genius Fund as the Chief Executive and Chief Operating Officer, a vertically integrated cannabis company in Los Angeles, CA. Prior to Genius, Fran served as the Director of Global Security for Snapchat where he was recruited to professionalize and scale the security organization across the globe and among all business units. Fran holds an MBA from New York University and graduated with honors from Boston University with a BA in Journalism and a minor in Political Science. Fran served 13 years in the United States Army as a Green Beret, deploying three times to Iraq in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom and Operation New Dawn. A lifelong sailor, Fran volunteers teaching Veterans to sail as the Race Director for Sailahead a Veterans service organization dedicated to reducing the Veteran suicide rate. Fran has also served as the Treasurer of the United War Veterans Council, an NYC-based non-profit focused on the wellness and healing of transitioning veterans, as well as the host of the annual NYC Veterans Day Parade.

Glenn Cowan
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Glenn founded One 9 Investments while serving as an Assaulter Officer in Canadian Special Operations Forces; Joint Task Force 2. As a Squadron Commander, Glenn specialized in leadership, command, and strategic planning and successfully translated these skills with the creation of a venture capital fund that invests utilizing the principles of special operations planning, risk mitigation, and execution. Having served on multiple combat deployments in Afghanistan, sensitive information operations in the Middle East, and Hostage Recovery operations in Africa he was a strategic planner and tactical commander. A graduate of McGill University, The Army Operations Course, The Special Operations Assaulter Course, Canadian Securities Course, and Ivey Executive Leadership program, arms Glenn with an unconventional perspective and application to the investment battlefield.

Dean Stott
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Dean is a former British Special Forces Soldier, 2x World Record Holder, Adventurer, Philanthropist, Author, and International Speaker. After making it through the Special Forces selection process, Dean became one of the very first army members to join the SBS (Special Boat Service). Throughout his esteemed military career, he has conducted deployments to overseas hostile environments and been involved in Counter-Terrorism operations; he has traveled to some of the toughest places in the world. He then established a distinguished career in the private security sector; Dean is now a renowned international speaker, presenting to FTSE 100 companies, sporting bodies, military departments, schools, and businesses. Dean has presented inspiring talks to 10,000 people at the O2 Arena through to 25 local children in impoverished areas. In 2016 Dean began training to cycle the longest motorable road in the world The Pan American Highway and completed the 14,000 miles route from Argentina to Alaska in May 2018.

Dan Luna
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Dan is a Certified Leadership Coach and Doctoral student. Dan is a retired US Navy SEAL, who served honorably for 20 years. He graduated with BUD/S Class 228, served at SEAL Team One and Naval Special Warfare Development Group. Dan’s leadership skills were refined while working at the U.S. Naval Academy and delivering competency-based leadership training. Dan has a Bachelor’s in Organizational Leadership from the University of Charleston, an Executive Master of Leadership and Graduate Leadership Coaching Certification from Georgetown University and he is currently working on a Doctorate in Organizational Change and Leadership from the University of Southern California.

Rich Diviney
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Rich Diviney (CDR USN Ret.) is a retired Navy SEAL officer. In a career spanning more than twenty years, he completed more than thirteen overseas deployments - eleven of which were to Iraq and Afghanistan. As the officer in charge of training for an elite Navy SEAL command, Diviney spearheaded the creation of a directorate that fused physical, mental, and emotional disciplines. Since his retirement Diviney has worked as a speaker, facilitator, and consultant with the Chapman & CO. Leadership Institute and Simon Sinek Inc., speaking to and training more than five thousand business, athletic, and military leaders. Diviney's first book: The Attributes. 25 Hidden Drivers of Optimal Performance is out now.

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